01-21-2014, 04:35 AM
It's not about being a douchebag, it's about whether you actually want (as in wish) to do it. And of course, how much of that can you afford to do, something Eduardo pointed out as well.
I mean, I find your question a bit strange:) You shouldn't be forced to do anything, whether that forcing came from your friend or family or upbringing... If you really want to do it, if you feel the need (but not negative need, as in "if I don't do it, I'm a douchebag, but a positive one, as in "I really wish to do it"), then do as much as you can (with minding the priorities as well).
If we stretch it, we could even say that the more you work on yourself in various aspects, you would also automatically affect the community in a positive way. If you were, say, a field doctor in a war zone and you get yourself out there all the time and rush in etc. as you don't want to feel like a douche, you'll get killed after like three days or die of exertion or illness, after saving something like five people. But if you prioritize things properly and value your life and time and our craft and calling, you might end up saving literally thousands of people in the end. A somewhat silly example, but you know what I'm trying to say. We could go even more extreme than that:) Imagine that giving/doing work for charity is your top priority. If you have billions, you could donate hundreds of millions to charity, but if you have a potato, if you give that potato away, you'll die of hunger - and if you didn't, you might have earned billions in the future and give millions to charity:) Examples are really plastic, but I think they work:)
But yeah, Eduardo summed it up well. Even if you really wish to do it, you should think whether you can actually afford to do it and how it will affect your life, aside from what stems from doing a good deed.
I mean, I find your question a bit strange:) You shouldn't be forced to do anything, whether that forcing came from your friend or family or upbringing... If you really want to do it, if you feel the need (but not negative need, as in "if I don't do it, I'm a douchebag, but a positive one, as in "I really wish to do it"), then do as much as you can (with minding the priorities as well).
If we stretch it, we could even say that the more you work on yourself in various aspects, you would also automatically affect the community in a positive way. If you were, say, a field doctor in a war zone and you get yourself out there all the time and rush in etc. as you don't want to feel like a douche, you'll get killed after like three days or die of exertion or illness, after saving something like five people. But if you prioritize things properly and value your life and time and our craft and calling, you might end up saving literally thousands of people in the end. A somewhat silly example, but you know what I'm trying to say. We could go even more extreme than that:) Imagine that giving/doing work for charity is your top priority. If you have billions, you could donate hundreds of millions to charity, but if you have a potato, if you give that potato away, you'll die of hunger - and if you didn't, you might have earned billions in the future and give millions to charity:) Examples are really plastic, but I think they work:)
But yeah, Eduardo summed it up well. Even if you really wish to do it, you should think whether you can actually afford to do it and how it will affect your life, aside from what stems from doing a good deed.