01-18-2014, 09:44 AM
Ha! I've learned since childhood from first hand experience that adults are not authorities who know what's right. They just have bigger sticks and hit harder, that's why you listen.
I grew up in a single family the parent of which isn't the best, brightest, most sensible, authoritative, or encouraging, but far from being the worst in the country. I've come to see adults as just the human beings they are - same as myself. Human beings that don't have a crystal ball to your mind, that are subject to all the emotions you have, that aren't the master of words and timing. I lost respect, so I didn't follow them, and didn't care. Only now I'm learning that you can always choose to look at the goods in imperfect people, instead of focusing on the bads. Many years are wasted doing things myself, finding out I've been doing the wrong things and making the wrong decisions.
Now what was left of my family is very fragmented with communication problem, and the peripherals are on the verge of killing each other for material goods. That pretty much eliminates any belief in "happy family" as a real thing for me. I can't stop blaming myself as the eldest for setting a bad example of rejecting communication and emotionally leaving my immediate family.
If I ever have a family, I want to do it right, and that means there must be a lot of Communication first and foremost, and Respect. That said, I honestly don't think I can keep a family together seeing how badly I screwed up with the original one. First the law's gotta permit it anyway, federally.
I grew up in a single family the parent of which isn't the best, brightest, most sensible, authoritative, or encouraging, but far from being the worst in the country. I've come to see adults as just the human beings they are - same as myself. Human beings that don't have a crystal ball to your mind, that are subject to all the emotions you have, that aren't the master of words and timing. I lost respect, so I didn't follow them, and didn't care. Only now I'm learning that you can always choose to look at the goods in imperfect people, instead of focusing on the bads. Many years are wasted doing things myself, finding out I've been doing the wrong things and making the wrong decisions.
Now what was left of my family is very fragmented with communication problem, and the peripherals are on the verge of killing each other for material goods. That pretty much eliminates any belief in "happy family" as a real thing for me. I can't stop blaming myself as the eldest for setting a bad example of rejecting communication and emotionally leaving my immediate family.
If I ever have a family, I want to do it right, and that means there must be a lot of Communication first and foremost, and Respect. That said, I honestly don't think I can keep a family together seeing how badly I screwed up with the original one. First the law's gotta permit it anyway, federally.