02-10-2014, 02:49 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1WC6hNTONg
Family is pretty complicated. Though I think as stated in this video you should try as much as possible to not make it a slave master and slave relationship, where you order around the kids to do things against their own preference. My father has once asked me many things like, "how is my parenting?" so I feel fairly grateful that my preferences were somewhat cared about.
Based on this idea, family is truly a dynamic thing, then. I think a happy family would be where everyone's voices are considered. There's a fault in how parents believe their opinion is superior. Because of this, they feel they don't need to consult people with even greater opinions than theirs. It's a weird experience.
And one last thing that is separate from everything else, I wish that my parents would have put in more effort to understand my passions and pastimes. It's almost as if they believed there was too much difference in our interests that they could never understand or enjoy what I would do for fun. Due to this they never really understood many things I did besides their surface opinion of it. They are almost never able to take part in the discussions me and my brother have because they never put in the effort to understand them. Is this just due to the cultural differences that happens due to the difference of experience? I hope not, for whenever I'm a parent I hope I can take part in my own childrens' activities, and correlate my demands with their activities so I don't anger them.
Family is pretty complicated. Though I think as stated in this video you should try as much as possible to not make it a slave master and slave relationship, where you order around the kids to do things against their own preference. My father has once asked me many things like, "how is my parenting?" so I feel fairly grateful that my preferences were somewhat cared about.
Based on this idea, family is truly a dynamic thing, then. I think a happy family would be where everyone's voices are considered. There's a fault in how parents believe their opinion is superior. Because of this, they feel they don't need to consult people with even greater opinions than theirs. It's a weird experience.
And one last thing that is separate from everything else, I wish that my parents would have put in more effort to understand my passions and pastimes. It's almost as if they believed there was too much difference in our interests that they could never understand or enjoy what I would do for fun. Due to this they never really understood many things I did besides their surface opinion of it. They are almost never able to take part in the discussions me and my brother have because they never put in the effort to understand them. Is this just due to the cultural differences that happens due to the difference of experience? I hope not, for whenever I'm a parent I hope I can take part in my own childrens' activities, and correlate my demands with their activities so I don't anger them.