02-11-2014, 10:51 PM
I'm a father, so this thread has been pretty interesting to read, I raise my daughter alone and its rough sometimes, shes a very young little lady, and yes most people are right, parents are not in charge because theyre super smart or infallible, the good parent is in charge because of their life experiance, their understanding of life.
I was raised by my father alone for many years, and then my mother when he fell very very ill. What my father said was the be all, end all. If he said to do something, I was to do it. On the flipside however, I could always speak to him, always question what the purpose was or why he felt I should do it, he always valued my ideas and thoughts even from a very young age where they were just plain wierd or silly. Its something I will never forget. I recall at around age ten I told him (while tracing a dragon ball z picture) that I wished to be an artist! He smiled, told me I could be whatever I wished, then he took the picture I was tracing from me and told me a real artist does not trace, anything good comes from hard work.
This is not to say we did not clash, or I did not clash with my mother, but it taught me alot about parenting. My parents were the law, but because of how they went about it, I respected them and their decisions, even when I was angry at them for their choices. I hope I can do the same thing for my daughter.
I was raised by my father alone for many years, and then my mother when he fell very very ill. What my father said was the be all, end all. If he said to do something, I was to do it. On the flipside however, I could always speak to him, always question what the purpose was or why he felt I should do it, he always valued my ideas and thoughts even from a very young age where they were just plain wierd or silly. Its something I will never forget. I recall at around age ten I told him (while tracing a dragon ball z picture) that I wished to be an artist! He smiled, told me I could be whatever I wished, then he took the picture I was tracing from me and told me a real artist does not trace, anything good comes from hard work.
This is not to say we did not clash, or I did not clash with my mother, but it taught me alot about parenting. My parents were the law, but because of how they went about it, I respected them and their decisions, even when I was angry at them for their choices. I hope I can do the same thing for my daughter.